If we do something over and over again, we get better at it. Just like developing a muscle. Worrying is no different. Except what makes worrying so unique, is that the more we do it – the weaker we become! In life we are constantly trying to cultivate what strengthens us and let go of what weakens us – because if it weakens us, it prevents us from living fully. So here are two ways to relax your worry muscle!
1. Ask yourself “What was I worrying about six months ago, 12 months ago, or 2 years ago?” Take some time…think about it. If you can’t come up with anything, remember that what you are worrying about now will have the same fate – it will be forgotten. Whether it’s financial issues, stress at the work place, starting a new venture, a relationship or resolving an issue from your past – in a short time you will have moved so far past your current worrisome state due to doing and living that it will be off your radar. Worrying produces stress and anxiety, not solutions. Remind yourself that, “this too shall pass!”
2. Most of the things we worry about never, ever, ever happen! Sometimes it’s good to look our worries and fears in the face and take the time to really think about the worst case scenario. When we do so, what are the odds of that really happening? If we were giving advice to a friend who was in our scenario, would the worse case scenario still seem as probable? Or would we say, “Come on, be realistic that would never happen!” Like when people talk about their fear of flying for travel. Yes something negative is possible! However, research reports flying to be by far the safest way to travel and that you are more likely to get hit by lighting twice, than have something happen during a flight! Don’t let your imagination or catastrophic thinking take you away from your heart and into your head. Don’t let catastrophic thinking cloud your judgement and limit your experiences. Do the research, see what the odds are of your fears actually happening, then go back to living and loving your life!
“Do not anticipate trouble, or worry about what may never happen. Keep in the sunlight.” -Benjamin Franklin
I hope this helps!!!