I don’t mean to be harsh; but lets be straight forward – both winners and losers leave trails of how they got there. So, let’s take a closer look.
For me, a winner is someone who plans to win, prepares to win and then expects to win. A ‘winner’ is someone who learns and moves forward with power, confidence and patience – regardless of the result. A winner recognizes that there is no failure only results and feedback .
A ‘loser’ on the other hand is someone who won’t even try. They have thrown in the towel before the match has even started. They are sitting on the sidelines of their own life. They have let the frustrations of life paralyze them and they feel completely powerless. Yes, ‘loser’ is an incredible harsh term, so to be fair and clear losing is an event, not a person. Losing is something that we all go through. In fact, some of the most successful and impactful people have lost many times over. But see a winner doesn’t see it as a loss – they see it as gaining unexpected knowledge. Focusing on what you have learned makes you realistic and effective! Don’t fall into the trap of being ‘realistic’ only to get discouraged and encouraged to think and live small.
One of the best ways to get onto the winning side is to learn how to loose. If you can’t win, be a great loser! Meaning, focus on what you have learned, focus on what can be gained and be flexible enough to change your path to your desire goal. A winner focuses on the result, the goal; while a loser will focus on the obstacles.
“Losers focus on what they’re going through, winners focus on where they’re going to!” -Unknown
How do you define a winner?